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Why oh why oh why...
03-20-2009, 02:14 PM
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Why oh why oh why...
Simply put: why do people pay for sex?

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03-20-2009, 06:58 PM
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RE: Why oh why oh why...
That is easy.

Most men and many women enjoy sexual variety. That is also why swinging is so hugely popular but not all couples have the kind of loving, honest communications that is required for swinging. And tons of single guys.

Monogamy is not natural for humans. .. or in most of nature. In biblical times even nothing wrong with a man to have as many wives and concubines as he could afford. Only adultery for a women to have sex outside of marriage since it violated the property rights of her husband. Today women should have the same sexual freedom that man have always enjoyed.

In my case I gave up the dating game years .. decades ago. Much more expensive and time consuming. As an "older gentleman" I am just not physically attracted to most women anywhere near by old age and need certain body types to be physically attracted to. I enjoy intimacy more than just raw sex and variety. Much of what I like the most isn't available in the U.S., not even considering the legal issues, which is why I enjoy Canada so much but wish I could find the same options in Phoenix.

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03-20-2009, 09:30 PM (This post was last modified: 03-20-2009 09:50 PM by Jenna Purr.)
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RE: Why oh why oh why...
they dont

they pay for no strings.

or as charlie sheen said, "i pay them to leave"


most of my clients can get laid any day of the freaky week but they want it done right, right away and when they're done, they want a girl who will go away.
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03-23-2009, 11:36 AM
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RE: Why oh why oh why...
Pay for Sex?Tongue

Who does not pay for sex? Who?

I was married twice. Neither was a money grubber but omg did I pay.

Paying directly for sex is illegal But paying indirectly is legal.

So I always choose to pay indirectly.

It is easy. Find someone you like and give them money. Its legal and its fun.
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03-28-2009, 05:36 PM
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I love my wife. I am emotionally faithful to her.

She is no longer interested in sexuality. She has told me to take care of my sexual needs with commercial providers, as she is fearful (correctly) that if I was to have my sexual needs gratified by affairs with a lover, there would develop an emotional attachment that would destroy my emotional commitment to her.

I do not think I could remain married and be celibate. She does not want me to divorce her, and I do not want to divorce her. Polygamy is not legal in the USA - and neither of us is interested in having a third marriage partner. So her giving me permission to "hobby" has preserved our marriage.

I've been told by my physician (who orders STD tests just to be safe) that ours is not an unusual arrangement. It is more common that you would imagine.
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03-28-2009, 07:26 PM
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Wonderful example of why

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10-21-2009, 01:24 AM
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Hi.
First for enjoyment then second for duty and third for away stress from children and fourth for security of his relation.
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10-23-2009, 05:08 PM
Post: #8
RE: Why oh why oh why...
I agree with the following:
1.For enjoyment
2.Take care of sexual needs
3.Sexual variety

I disagree with the following:
1. Either way you end up paying for sex
2.I am emotionally faithful

Though I agree with the statements, I do not see these as valid reasons to pay for sex. First of all I've known plenty to go to a bar, or search for people on facebook, take them to a hotel, and do this with a different woman every few hours. This costs close to nothing, however im not from America so I don't know if the same thing happens there.

Secondly, a man is faithful when his relationship is not determined by sexual satisfaction. Regardless if she pleases me sexually or not, I would want no other woman. Should a woman I sleep with say "no more" I will have the strength to remain celibate. But then again, our definition of "commitment" differs.

I can understand, but not relate to, polygamous relationships as it REALLY isn't unusual. But I tried it all when I was younger, and I found that even though I can perhaps love more than one woman for different qualities, priorities clash, and in the end it is better to commit to someone worth the commitment, than several who fill in for where each other are lacking.
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10-23-2009, 05:59 PM
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You have to do what works best for you, but not judge others with differing views.

In my case I am older, not all all attracted to most women anywhere near my age and have no interest in a live in relationship as in marriage. Tried that once 30+ years ago and I know it is not for me.

In Europe and Asia 2nd wives and mistresses are common and no big deal. In general Humans just like most other mammals, birds, etc are not designed to be monogamous.

Honest open relationships with millions of couples in swinging or in polyamory is more as we seem to be designed.

Even in biblical times a married man could have as many other wives, concubines and maidservants and it was never wrong as long as the "other women" was single (not owned by a husband) It was only women that had to be monogmamous if married because they were owned by first their father who sold them into marriage and than the husband.

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10-28-2009, 12:35 AM
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Hi All.
Because Everybody wants something new.
And we all have only one wife. And why other female play sex with us without money (Except Girlfriend) . So people paid money for sex.
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10-28-2009, 05:01 AM
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(10-23-2009 05:08 PM)Ludamn Wrote:  Secondly, a man is faithful when his relationship is not determined by sexual satisfaction. Regardless if she pleases me sexually or not, I would want no other woman. Should a woman I sleep with say "no more" I will have the strength to remain celibate. But then again, our definition of "commitment" differs.

i do not fall for guys very easily or very often but there has been 2 men in my past that during the time they were a part of my life, they made all other men cease to exist for me. i was just absolutely and completely unaware of any other men.

but i never thought about commitment. .. thankfully, i was only suffering from temporary stupidity so it wasnt necessary.Big Grin
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